Why Au Pair in America Was the Best Decision for My Daughter’s Gap Year
My daughter came home from school one afternoon during her final year of school and said ‘mum, have you heard of an au pair before?’. She had seen an Au Pair in America poster in the school library and little did we know she would choose this option for her gap year.
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The parent experience
After looking into the Au Pair in America program, Aisling was certain shortly after that this was how she wanted to spend her gap year. The application and interview process gave her the opportunity to reflect on her goals, skills, experience and what she could bring to the role of Au Pair. I believe this motivated her to build her skillset to be successful in the application process. Although anxious about the idea of my daughter leaving home and moving to the US, the support from Au Pair in America gave me comfort. Au Pair in America supported the visa application and their processes and guidance helped us navigate the consulate expectations successfully with confidence.
I felt reassured knowing she would be living with a family. Moving into family homes and experiencing alternative family culture and values was a positive and exciting part of the program. I believe it is a great stepping stone for young people to gain their independence and learn how to step up as an adult without the added stresses of living costs such as rent, bills, food or moving out costs.

The benefits of the program
Engaging the Au Pairs to study is another benefit to the individuals. This encouraged my daughter to enrol in more study while living abroad. This was a great bonus as a parent to know she was still able to continue learning and studying in topics she was passionate about.
My daughter had wonderful experiences. The families were very inclusive, however, she also chose to embrace their lifestyles and support their parenting expectations. Her maturity to assimilate into the families made the experience more positive. As a young woman, she needed to be tolerant, adaptable, flexible and willing to embrace the children and their lifestyle.
These skills were exemplified during her time. I believe this has given her a great set of work skills which have led to ongoing employment and aspirations. The experience gave her confidence and skills which have continued to help her through her career since returning home.

Managing the emotions as a parent
Yes, I had some very sad days during the weeks before she left. I knew I was going to miss her terribly. However, once she arrived, was settled and happy, I was fine. We had very regular contact via messenger and FaceTime. I felt reassured knowing we had 24/7 support from Au Pair in America if we ever needed
Visiting her in the USA
I was able to visit her for Christmas and her host family welcomed me into their home. We explored the area where she lived and we were fortunate to travel together. An amazing experience I would recommend. Both my daughter and I are still in contact with her two host families to this day and she has been able to return to visit them two years on. We hope to be able to welcome them into our country and home in the future also.

Final thoughts
The Au Pair in America experience provided so much more than we expected. I would absolutely advocate parents to encourage their daughters to embrace the opportunity if possible!
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Frequently Asked Questions
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01What is the age limit for Au Pair in America?
You must be aged between 18-26 to participate in Au Pair in America. We recommend applicants apply at least 6 months prior to their 27th birthday to have sufficient time to complete the application and arrive in the USA. You can also start your application when you are 17 provided you are 18 by the time your placement begins.
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02What kind of childcare experience do I need?
You must have a minimum of 200 referenced hours of childcare, but this can cover basically anything related to children! For example, internships or work in daycare centres, schools, nurseries, children's nurses, camp counsellors, sports coaches, babysitting or tutoring. Caring for family members is also great experience and should be included on your application, however it won’t be counted as childcare hours.
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03Can I be an Au Pair in America for less than 12 months?
Au Pair in America is a minimum 12-month commitment. This may seem like a long time but trust us when we say the year will fly by.
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04Do I need to have a full driving license?
As most families require an Au pair who can drive, it is a requirement that you have a driving license. We accept P-Plate drivers, as this is the equivalent of a full license in the US. If you are a Learner driver you can still begin your application, but you'll need to pass your driving test before starting your placement.
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05How will I make friends and meet people?
All Au pairs join a local 'cluster', which is a group of other Au Pair in America participants in your local area. Each cluster is managed by a local Community Counsellor who plans monthly meetings and events for your cluster group to get together and participate in a fun activity such as movie nights, sporting events or cultural activities. Attending these meetings and events is expected of our Au Pairs and is the easiest way to meet other Au Pairs and make lots of new friends.
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06How far ahead should I apply?
We recommend that you apply as soon as you have made the decision to participate. It's good to try to get your application finished about 6 months before you'd like to travel to America. On average, it takes roughly 4 weeks to complete an application from start to finish, including attending an interview.
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07What if I already know the family I want to Au Pair for?
Yes, this is possible - we call it a "pre-match." Both you and the family must still meet the requirements for the program. You should contact the Sydney office with information on the family and the family will need to apply through our US office and go through the normal screening process. You will also still need to submit a full application and be interviewed.
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08What if I’m homesick or my placement doesn’t work out?
Our aim is that both the Au Pair and Host Family have a happy, successful year. Should a conflict occur between you and your Host Family, the Community Counsellor will assist to resolve any issues as quickly as possible. If the issues cannot be resolved, you will go into ‘rematch’ where you will be able to find a new family.
Remember that it's perfectly natural to feel a bit homesick when you arrive in the USA. You should be able to overcome this through the help of your Host Family, your Community Counsellor and your new Au Pair friends. If you do really want to return home then you will forfeit your return flight and you may not be able to participate on another US cultural exchange program in the future, so please think carefully about your decision to leave early.
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09If I've been an Au Pair in America before, can I return?
Yes! We have a returnee program available, providing that you:
- Have successfully completed your first stay in America
- Have completed the educational component of the program
- Can provide a copy of your completion certificate and reference from your previous Host Family
- Have lived outside of the USA for at least 2 years
If you want to return to the same family as before, we can help arrange this if you qualify as a ‘returnee Au Pair’ and your Host Family are happy to have you back again.